In this sermon Real Help For Families - Obstructions, we learn of two levels of disaffection. There's no one person who can fulfill all of your needs. Nor will you be the ultimate supplier of all of your spouse's needs. We need to stop blaming and admit our part for the mess .  Give each other a clean slate, then go forward. After hurts and let downs we want to minimize any hurts and we will guard ourselves against further damage.  -it’s a process . When we are unrecognized we feel abandoned and hurt.